Am I where I wanted to be?
Did I get here easily?
Did I make a sacrifice?
Did I take a sharp left…
when I should have turned right?
⁃ Darren Hayes, Where You Want To Be.
We all have our sliding doors moments, I’m sure. What if? What if things were different? What would have happened if I’d said yes instead of no, if I’d chosen to go on that trip, if I’d agreed with that boy, turned my back on that job??
Are these regrets?
Do I feel resentful?
Do I wish things were different?
I’ve written about this before. For me, life is about the people you meet, the people you gather around yourself, the people you want in your life.
If I’d made other decisions, chosen different paths, had a different answer, then I may never have met the people that I’ve met.
And that would be a tragedy.
Of course, I would have met other people. And I wouldn’t have known what I was missing by not meeting the people that I’ve met. But I’m very glad to have met my people.
My people.
MY people.
I believe wholeheartedly that life is what you make it. And although I’m not sure it’s a mantra I’m living right now, I do believe in it. I’m not there right now, but I’ll get back there.
Soon.
Another story for another time.
So, no.
No regrets.
No resentment.
No wishing things were different.
Life is what you make it.
And ain’t that the truth?
x desleyjane
musingsofafrequentflyingscientist.com 
Beautiful words, my friend. Yes, to every one of them. Heartfelt and wise, reminding us of what really matters. Thank you!
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My pleasure. You are one of those few people I mention. Miss you and our conversations so much x.
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💕 thank you! Likewise! X
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It’s hard sometimes, Desley. Hope all is well.
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Thank you Lois. All is mostly well. I’m just feeling a little overwhelmed and a little neglected, the latter being not really true, so I’m probably being a little self-indulgent there. But I’m managing to surround myself with friends and that’s helping so so much. I’ll be back to my old self in no time.
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Life most certainly is what you make it….
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My dad has always said that and it’s taken me a long time to realize how true it is.
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Well, plenty of things I didn’t cotton onto when I was younger….
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Wise words. I hope things are ok with you (and you got the mould issue sorted out). Sending hugs.
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Thank you so much Su. Hugs back to you. Nothing happening with the mould yet unfortunately but I have an inspection coming up very soon and hoping that will help sort things out. I’m doing ok otherwise, just a little overwhelmed and under-appreciated 😕 but I’ll be fine 😊 thanks again.
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Hang in there. 😀
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A contemplative post DJ. Hope all is well and I do agree with your thoughts who would ever know where life would lead if you’d made other decisions, but you didn’t, so, I say, enjoy and be thankful for the here and now
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Thank you PP. Exactly. I had a few moments of feeling sorry for myself but remembered that life is what you make it. I was reminiscing about days gone by but we only remember the really good times in those situations. I am very thankful for the people I have here. Thanks again, so much.
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It is good to remember the good memories, but look forward to the future
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I miss you, come back to yourself and smile!!!!!! Days will get better I am sure. xo
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It’s all good. Just dealing with some difficult stuff every now and again, but I’m doing ok. We should catch up in the next couple of weeks. X
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